ALMOND GARDEN-A BOOK OF SILENT TRUTH

“Her body was a prison, her mind was a prison. Her memories were a prison. The people she loved. She couldn’t get away from the hurt of them...The sky felt like a prison.”
― Ann Brashares, Sisterhood Everlasting

By Humaira

I recently had the honor of meeting Gabriela Maj, a gutsy photojournalist who travelled throughout Afghanistan and gained access to numerous women's prison facilities where she interviewed and photographed over a hundred prisoners for her book ALMOND GARDEN, Portraits from the Women's Prisons in Afghanistan. The project aims to raise awareness about gender in-equality and women's rights issues as well as the human rights violations in the Afghan justice system in which many women continue to be unjustly incarcerated. 

 

The following is an excerpt from ALMOND GARDEN by Gabriela Maj

SHARI’A, RELIGIOUS LAW INTERPRETED AND APPLIED IN AFGHANISTAN, strictly prohibits zina, or sex between two people who are not married. “Moral crime” is an umbrella term used in Afghanistan to describe all of the possible ways by which a person may be accused of zina. It can apply to victims of rape, individuals accused of adultery, or those who have run away from the home of their father or husband or who have helped someone else to do so.

Running away, not listed explicitly in the penal code, is often interpreted by judges as the beginning of an attempt to commit zina and is therefore also penalized with incarceration. The female prison population in Afghanistan overwhelmingly consists of individuals who are serving 5-15 year sentences for moral crimes. Although the privileges and power bestowed on men in Afghan society are significantly greater than those permitted to women, men can also be incarcerated for zina, as can anyone viewed to have aided in the crime; in this way, entire communities are affected.

Instead of expending the limited resources available to the justice system on tracking and incarcerating victims of abuse, focus should be redirected to responding to the calls of those in danger, to arresting and bringing to justice perpetrators whose violence reverberates throughout Afghan society and affects everyone, and to establishing transparency within the justice system’s own ranks.

As the international community withdraws from the country, it leaves in its wake a population of women and girls who are ostensibly free, at least for the moment, from the brutality of the Taliban. And yet they lack a robust infrastructure within which their basic human rights will be protected. International support for the continued battle for gender equality is vital not only to maintaining the progress that has been made but to the safety and survival of many.

FARESHTE’S MORAL CRIME

Fareshte was alone in the large cell where she slept with seven other women when I knocked on the heavy door at the end of the dim hallway. We sat together on the carpeted floor while her infant son played between us, exchanging a few basic questions through a female translator. I asked which province she was from, what her son’s name was; she asked me which country I had come from. We talked about the summer heat, we noted the fact that we were the same age, and then I asked her, “Tell me why you are here.”

“I was raped by a man in my village,” she responded. “After it happened, there was a jurga [a meeting of elders], and they made the decision to kill me, to stone me to death. My father said, ‘No. If my daughter is going to die, the man who did this should also be killed.’ A letter was written to the police, and I was arrested.”

Fareshte gave birth to her son while in prison. She was later offered a reduced sentence if she would agree to marry her rapist. I asked her what she would do. She looked at me and said, without changing her tired expression or quiet tone,

“If he agrees, I will marry him. What else can I do?”

 

That first day in Badam Bagh [prison], I met several young women whose lives were completely devoid of the self-determination I had always enjoyed and mostly taken for granted. Stories of unimaginable abuse and powerlessness intermingled with talk of everyday things such as education, lipstick, teething babies and mobile phones. Somewhere in between these jarringly dissimilar threads of narrative, many of which were familiar to me, I found myself stunned in the face of the disparity between us, not on account of the contrast between our lives—there were many differences, and they were significant—but ultimately because of how arbitrarily we had each been dealt our respective hands in life.

Two years after my first visit to Badam Bagh, I was once again in the prison and inquired about Fareshte. During the course of this project there were several women I had the opportunity to meet with more than once, which, beyond being a way that I could gain a deeper understanding of the challenges faced by incarcerated women, was also something I very much looked forward to. I wanted to see Fareshte but was informed that she had been released. I asked if she had married her assailant, as per the offer that had been presented to her by the court the last time I met with her. “No,” the guard responded between loud sips of hot tea without looking at me, “she’s in a women’s shelter somewhere; he did not agree to marry her.” A cellmate of hers recently reported that she had heard Fareshte had been killed by her family, another said that she had fled the country with her son.

Almond Garden is available for sale at www.almondgarden.net with a portion of the proceeds going to Women for Afghan Women (WAW), an organization that runs shelters, provides pro bono legal support and education to incarcerated women and their children in Afghanistan.

 

 

 

FIFTEEN BENEFITS OF CARDAMOM

I grew up with cardamom as a staple in Jeja's, my mom, pantry.  She uses green cardamom to add an aroma and special flavor to in tea and desserts. On occasion, she uses the pungent black cardamom in savory dishes. I keep a small jar of ground cardamom in my fridge for the infrequent occasion when I want to Afghanify a non-Afghan food such as vanilla ice cream, coffee and on occasion oatmeal.

My recipes with cardamom:

Qabili Palau, Afghanistan's National Dish

Halwa with Saffron, Orange and Cardamom, Halwa-e-Naranj

Afghan Baklava with Cardamom

Afghan Creamy Tea, Qaymaq Chai

Afghan Oatmeal with Chicken and Cardamom, Haleem

Almond Cardamom Meringue, Kulcha-e-Badamee

Cardamom Almond Brittle

Rosewater Cardamom Fudge, Sheer Pera

Semolina Halwa, Sojee Halwa

Afghan Cutter Cookies, Kulch-e- Birinjee

Quince and Yogurt Trifle

Creamy Cardamom Rice Pudding, Sheer Birinj

Afghan Sundae, Falooda

Carrot Pudding, Halwa-e-Zardak

Article edited and reprinted from Sunwarrior.com 

Cardamom is native to India, Bangladesh, Bhutan, Nepal and Pakistan. This spice is commonly used in Indian, Central Asian and Middle Eastern cuisine. It has also made its way into Ayurvedic medicine as a treatment for mouth ulcers, digestive problems, and even depression. Some of the health benefits of this peppery, citrusy spice are now making their way into modern studies. It’s well worth adding cardamom to your food for the flavor alone, but these health benefits are also something to consider whenever you break out the spices.

Digestion – Cardamom is related to ginger and can be used in much the same way to counteract digestive problems. Use it to combat nausea, acidity, bloating, gas, heartburn, loss of appetite, constipation, and much more.

Detoxify – This spice helps the body eliminate waste through the kidneys.

Halitosis – In India they chew cardamom after meals or whenever they need to freshen their breath.

Diuretic – Part of the reason cardamom is such a good detoxifier is thanks to the diuretic properties. It helps clean out the urinary tract, bladder, and kidneys, removing waste, salt, excess water, toxins, and combating infections too.

Depression – The science behind the antidepressant qualities of cardamom hasn’t been studied yet, but Ayurvedic medicine swears by the tea as a means to fight depression.

Oral Health – Apart from helping with bad breath, cardamom is used for mouth ulcers and infections of the mouth and throat.

Cold and Flu – This pungent spice may help prevent and relieve cold and flu symptoms. It’s also used for bronchitis and coughs.

Cancer – Animal studies are showing promise that cardamom protects against, inhibits growth, and even kills some cancers.

Blood Pressure – As a diuretic and fiber rich spice, cardamom significantly lowers blood pressure.

Blood Clots – Cardamom prevents dangerous blood clots by preventing platelet aggregation and the sticking to the artery walls.

Antioxidant – Many of the vitamins, phytonutrients, and essential oils in cardamom act as antioxidants, cleaning up free radicals and resisting cellular aging.

Pathogens – The volatile essential oils in cardamom inhibit the growth of viruses, bacteria, fungus, and mold.

Anti-inflammatory – Like ginger and turmeric, its relatives, cardamom has some anti-inflammatory properties that limit pain and swelling, especially in mucus membranes, the mouth, and throat.

Hiccups – Cardamom is an anti-spasmodic that can help get rid of hiccups. This also applies to other involuntary muscle spasms, like stomach and intestinal cramps.

Aphrodisiac – Traditional medicine lists cardamom as a powerful aphrodisiac that can help with erectile dysfunction and impotence.


ONE MAN'S DEVOTION TO SAVING AFGHAN CHILDREN

I’m always excited to see a comment from a reader at the end of my posts. It’s heartening to know that I’m sharing information that is creating dialogue. A few weeks ago, Lee Hilling, author of a newly published book A PLACE OF MIRACLE contacted me about his book. He had my attention at the mention of his 60 trips to Afghanistan.

Lee has been Chairman of French Medical Institute (FMIC) for Children which has provided life saving medical care to pediatric heart patience in Afghanistan. He has held board and senior executive management positions at academic health centers in the United States, Pakistan, and East Africa. After learning about his devotion to saving Afghan children's lives, I asked him to share his story with us. 

Lee donates all proceeds from the sale of A PLACE OF MIRACLE to FMIC for either patient welfare support of Afghan staff development. Go ahead, buy a copy.

Guest blogger, Lee Hilling

In February 2011, I attended the French Medical Institute for Children’s First International Pediatric Symposium. I had been deeply involved planning and implementing FMIC for nearly seven years and I had been chairman of its board for five years. FMIC had accomplished many miraculous things [in Afghanistan] in a short time.

By then, 1000 pediatric cardiac surgeries had been performed, half of which were open-heart cases, with results at or exceeding international standards. Best of all, for more than a year, FMIC’s cardiac surgery was being done by an all-Afghan team. Surgical procedures had been successfully performed that had never before been done in Afghanistan. Children’s lives had been saved that, without FMIC, would have been lost.

This symposium was the first such event ever held in Afghanistan. Despite security issues, nearly 250 Afghan nationals and thirty-two international participants from nine countries attended the conference. FMIC’s Afghan physicians and nurses presented case studies from their practices and presentations were made by physicians from the U.S., Spain, Pakistan, and Canada.

The pride of FMIC’s [Afghan] staff was palpable. They realized they could host and participate in an event wherein their experiences and accomplishments were respected and of interest to health care professionals from around the globe. I was sitting close to a doctor and nurse from the U.S. Navy. I overheard the nurse say,

“I never realized something like this could happen in Afghanistan.”

At that point I got goosebumps and almost teary. I realized FMIC had moved beyond just delivering the highest quality health care in the country and was now contributing to reconstruction of the nation. It was at that point I decided to write a book and to try to tell its marvelous story.

Salma, her father and Lee Hilling

The story had to be about the people whose lives had been changed by FMIC. I wanted to know how families’ lives were different after their children were treated. I wanted to meet children and their parent in their homes and hear their stories in their own words.

I visited families in Kabul and traveled to remote areas of Bamyan and Badakhshan Provinces. I met Frishta—a beguiling four-year old—in Koprok Village in the beautiful Band-e-Amir national park. I met Salma in Nawa Village, in one a sparsely populated districts in Badakhshan. I met Ismail and Yogana, both of whom would have died within days or weeks after their births, were it not for that care that could performed at FMIC.

Parents told me how their children couldn’t walk and were doomed to disability, even slow death, before being cared for at FMIC. Now they were able to attend school and play with friends. 

Afghan nurse at work at FMIC ICU

Afghan nurse at work at FMIC ICU

International combat forces and development agencies spent billions of dollars in Afghanistan in the years before and after FMIC’s inauguration. Hospitals and clinics were built, but in some cases they were of such poor quality they were useless, In other cases, patients, doctors, and nurses fearing Taliban retribution were afraid to use them.

Corruption was rampant. Sound oversight of contractors was often absent and  the quality of completed projects was poor. FMIC is one of Afghanistan’s most remarkable success stories. The story about FMIC is a story about miracles. My involvement with it has been one of the most uplifting experiences of my life.

A PLACE OF MIRACLE: The Story of a Children’s Hospital in Kabul and the People Whose Lives Have Been Changed by It, by Lee Hilling. Available online at Amazon, Barnesandnoble.com, and Outskirtspress.com.